How Positive Ways Succeed through Emotional Resilience in Action

We create a warm, positive relationship with our clients from which positive ways spring.

Positive Ways is a combination of equal support and gentle and suitable challenge.

Support means we provide comfort, encouragement, validation and serve as a foundation for you, keeping it place as you continue to grow.

Challenge means we will question, clarify and seek explanation of what limits or stops you from moving forward, which we will help you overcome.

We understand that each of us starts with a different capacity for resilience and coping. A careful emotional audit helps us assess your needs and capacity. The right mix of support and challenge will enable you to work and develop in the Positive Ways quadrant of ‘SUSTAINABLE GROWTH’.

Positive Ways will gentle nudge you out of:

  1. Being STUCK – which is where apathy and inaction reside
  2. SHYING AWAY – where the challenge feels too great
  3. COLLUSION – where the view of the world is not properly questioned or fed back

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This is because support without challenge does not encourage adult learning.  This is why positive ways puts its clients at the centre of the process, but provides some of the energy, direction and spare emotional and mental capacity that some clients, sometimes, think is missing from their world.

With support comes guidance and teaching, which leads to your ‘Emotional Resilience in Action’.




Motivation is the amount of effort that an individual is willing to put in to achieve a goal or outcome. It energises, directs and sustains the behaviour that is needed to achieve and be successful.

To manage our movement towards success our coach can help us by exploring with us our:
1. Rational beliefs – that is holding beliefs that are healthy and consistent with what we want in life (and more, do we have a philosophy towards life that is coherent, consistent and congruent with what we aim to achieve?).
2. Emotional resilience – ‘E Motions’ is ‘Energy in Motion’ – in other words do our emotions lead to responses that move or energise us towards our goals? Emotional Intelligence is always useful.
3. Behavioural actions – using what we do and the physical sensations we have in our body to direct us toward our goals (which can sometimes happen sub-consciously as we are a biological as well as a thinking machine).
4. Cognitive processing – does the way we think support our desire to be successful (this works on the premise that if we change our thoughts we change our actions)?

Coaching psychology suggests that where we feel discomfort in those areas of our lives (physical, emotional, mental or spiritual/philosophical) there is a rich source of opportunity to be explored and made use of. It is called learning and it leads to growth.

But often we find ourselves stuck and unable to achieve in ways that are satisfying, and because of this we may find we ‘can’t even get started’. This can be due to lacking meaning in our lives. Meaning is about simply holding a philosophy that leads us to conclude that ‘life generally makes good sense’.

Undoubtedly that means two other things; having a sense of purpose (knowing what it is that adds your value) and being suitably stretched (that is using our energy to keep improving). How effective that is for us depends on the source of our motivation.

The nature of the motivation is normally described as either being:
a. Extrinsic – driven by outside circumstances, such as social expectations, the need to avoid punishment or to achieve rewards.
b. Intrinsic – emerging from internally, what it is that the individual really wants to achieve.

The distinction is vital as external motivation tends to be short term and energy draining, whilst internal motivation tends to be more enduring and energy sustaining. This has importance for our own approach to life and for the systems, like families, organisations and businesses that we are involved in.

It means that if you want a ‘quick fix, someone else does it for me’, you will find a great motivational speaker to do it to you. If you want the ‘silver bullet of all magic’, try ‘The Secret’ – all you have to do is ‘wish for it and click your heels’ and it will be done for you.

On the other hand if you stop and listen you may come to understand that the desire to grow is internal and innate, the answers are within yourself. Bring your desires to meet your internal motivation and you can succeed.

If you, your family and your organisation want to be truly successful, then engage in and promote transformational learning and start to really ‘get what motivation is’. It starts by making sure you address 1 to 4 above and getting motivated, from finding the motivation to change, to building the process for changing, and then making, and sustaining the change. The draft articles below address those issues.

How Positive Ways defines healing

We at Positive Ways are often asked the question, ‘What is healing?’ As we pondered this, it became apparent to us that healing can be considered across the four key domains of Physical Healing; Mental Healing; Emotional Healing and Spiritual Healing.

Because Positive Ways always places the needs and understanding of our clients first, we don’t feel the need to define what each of those specifically means. To us, it is irrelevant to consider a client anything other than whole. Therefore, our aspiration is to support our clients with their preferred approach to healing, across the four domains above, which we call ‘becoming integrated’.

In our experience, an integrated person is able to articulate both clear meaning to their lives going forward and good sense or an empowering story, of their past.

From this place our clients are able to build resilient relationships, assimilate information from their environment and take effective action to achieving their goals.